Meet Our Support Specialists

Tu Nidito's Support Specialists

Meet the team!

Tu Nidito’s Support Specialists/Groups Coordinators are trained professionals who carry out the mission of Tu Nidito each and every day. Their role is to support families, children and young adults who have experienced the death of a loved one or a serious medical diagnosis. Sometimes, this means that they meet with children individually to work through feelings and thoughts that surround their grief. This is done through meaningful play, activities, and exercises to build new coping skills. These professionals also coordinate monthly bereavement support groups, leading volunteers and families in an evening of peer-to-peer support with specialized curriculum and intentional play. 

Support Specialists are trained and experienced in the field of grief as it related to death loss and medical diagnoses. They walk alongside families, children and young adults providing emotional support in their time of need.
 

Read more about each of our Support Specialists below!

Meet The Support Specialists: Q & A

Tell us what you do!

I work one-on-one with families who have a child with a serious medical condition, and I coordinate our bereavement support groups. Also, I am the Young Adult Bereavement Support Group Coordinator*.

*Read Serena’s story about how she got her start at Tu Nidito here.

What’s your favorite part about your job?

My favorite part about working at Tu Nidito is being able to connect with the families – getting to know them, playing games, working on art projects, and doing other fun activities while simultaneously helping them talk and process through some pretty big feelings.

What inspires you to do this work?

Having a personal experience with serious illness and death loss, I feel inspired to do this work because I know how helpful it was for me when I was in need of support. I am also constantly blown away by how vulnerable and brave the kids I work with are, and that inspires me all the time.

Fun Fact:

I play the cello!

Tell us what you do!

I am the Bilingual Support Specialist and also a Group Coordinator for our bereavement support groups.

What’s your favorite part about your job?

My favorite part of working at Tu Nidito is that I get to meet a lot of people and create a safe space for them to express their emotions and get help.

What inspires you to do this work?

My inspiration to continue doing this work is seeing the incredible community and support that is created between the families and their connection with Tu Nidito. They are able to meet other families and learn that they are not alone in their grief.

Fun Fact:

I love heavy metal and I play the drums. People are usually surprised when they learn this about me!

Tell us what you do!

As the Assistant Program Director, I develop curriculum for Tu Nidito’s support groups. This consists of our talking circle questions and activities. I also coordinate the support group for Children who have a Parent with a Serious Medical Condition as well as the Thursday II Bereavement Support Group. In addition, I help supervise Tu Nidito’s One-on-One Program for families who have a child diagnosed with a serious medical condition. 

What’s your favorite part about your job?

Our model. I had never experienced anything like the Tu Nidito model until I began as a volunteer in 2008. I fell in love with it immediately and understood how powerful it was in the grief process.

What inspires you to do this work?

I truly believe in Tu Nidito’s model, mission and vision. I’ve never quite felt that way about other types of professional work I’ve done in the past. Because I deeply believe in the work that I do, and because I see the positive impacts our model has on families, volunteers, and community members every single day, I feel inspired to do this work as long as I can. 

Fun Fact:

I was lucky enough to marry my best friend from childhood. We’ve been together for almost 15 years and married for 5.

Tell us what you do!

I am a Support Specialist who works with children who have a serious medical condition and their families. I also coordinate support groups for grieving children and their families.

What’s your favorite part about your job?

My favorite part of working at Tu Nidito is “playing” with children and seeing how they find hope and healing through fun and interactive activities. In the 10 years I have been working at Tu Nidito, it has been less of a “job” and more of a passion to connect with and support so many wonderful families in our community. 

What inspires you to do this work?

What inspires me is seeing the wonder and resilience of the children I am honored to support as they go through really difficult times in their lives.

Fun Fact:

I have a 32 year old son and an 11 year old adopted daughter. She keeps me young and makes life so fun!

Interested in one of our programs?

Please fill out this contact form or give us a call at (520) 322-9155.

A Tu Nidito Family’s Story of Grief and Love

A Tu Nidito Family's story of Grief and love

Guest Writers: The Rubio Family

Like many holidays and milestones, Father’s Day can be tricky. For some, it brings a day of celebration and togetherness; for others, a poignant reminder of loss and grief. However you are heading into this weekend, we would like to invite you to express your feelings in a way that may be new to you. As a family, or individually, tell your story. Your story may be marked by beauty, pain, hope, sadness… It can be a glimpse of a moment, a feeling, or a whole lifetime. Whatever you write is worth expressing. Storytelling can happen through writing, drawing, or other art forms. You can choose to keep it to yourself, or share it with others. 

As an inspiring example to begin our storytelling this Father’s Day,  a Tu Nidito family is sharing about their personal grief journey. For the first time, Anita and her three children are spending this Father’s Day without their dad, Aaron. Thank you, Rubio family, for opening your hearts and sharing your story.

(Left to Right) Aaron, Carys (13), Daniel (11), Kyndra (8)
Drawing by Kyndra

My two oldest children, Carys and Daniel, have their father’s green eyes. Daniel has his dad’s mannerisms to the point where some of my family members still slip up and call him “Aaron” – his dad’s name. They were buddies. Even our youngest, Kyndra Joy, can impersonate some of her dad’s facial expressions like nobody else. All three of them have an amazing sense of humor that I absolutely love.

Last Father’s Day, their first gift to their “Dada” was a potato they’d drawn a silly face on and meticulously wrapped. It was followed by a t-shirt that read, “My favorite people call me Dad”. I’m not sure which gift Aaron loved more. Unbeknownst to us, that Father’s Day week would be the last time we would all live together with any semblance of “normalcy”. He and I had our struggles until, heartbreakingly, Aaron died by suicide only a few months later. 

Needless to say that for nearly the last 12 months, I have looked ahead to the month of June with a bit of a knot in my stomach. There has been uncertainty about how to approach this year – the kids’ first Father’s Day since their dad died. For us, however, there has been nothing more healing than sitting together sharing memories, whether that meant laughing together, crying together, or both. It is exactly why we have found the services at Tu Nidito to be so beneficial. The children and I each have a place there where we can speak Aaron’s name and dedicate some time to share special memories, talk about how our present lives are affected, and even consider things that may come up in the future. Most kids seem to recoil from the notion that there is anything that makes them too different from their peers. Losing a father to suicide is certainly not something that any of their school friends or family members could directly relate to. I credit this organization with giving my kids, and many like them, a safe place to identify and speak up about their true thoughts and feelings, which has played such a vital role in our family’s healthy healing over the many months we have been with them.

Carys, 13 years old

My dad and I shared a love for birds. For Christmas in 2018 I got a cardinal puzzle. It was 3-D, but the instructions were vague and unclear. My dad was very interested in this puzzle and helped me by looking it up online. He told me where each piece could go. We finished it and left it out for everyone to see. We were proud of it. My dad’s name was Aaron. He was a good dad, and I loved him.

Daniel, 11 years old

One of the things I miss most was Dad’s food. He made the best mac and cheese, that stuff was legendary and no other mac and cheese maker could compare. His super good meal was his biscuits and gravy; spicy and peppery, and the biscuits were perfection. And when he made chilaquiles, he would always let me cut tortillas into chip shapes before he fried them.

My dad was a great father, but after he died of suicide lots of things changed. I started to feel left out because I am the only boy in my family now. I also started wishing for him back, and I would try and remember what fun things we did when we were together. I still remember the silly reasons why he would scold us. Also I still remember the great foods he would make. But most importantly, he cared for me and my family.

Kyndra, 8 years old

My dad was so fun! His name was Aaron. He loved hound dogs, so we had three. Every night when I said goodnight, Dada would give me lots of high fives before giving me a poke in the belly. And the memory that keeps playing in my head is his goofy laugh, a really adorable laugh that lit up his whole face!

After hearing each of my children share some of their favorite memories about their father, we all sat surrounded by a flood of emotions. We still have a long road ahead of us as we experience many other firsts in life without him, but I am also confident that they- that we- will all be ok. As a mom that is doing my best to be present with them every day, I am also so proud of them for sitting with the pain long enough to make it to whatever is on the other side of it. I’ve been surprised a number of times at how such intense pain can actually be turned to thankfulness and joy. Of course they will never forget their father, that loss will forever be with them, but likewise, they will never forget these and other very special memories of him. For those close to our family, I would even reassure them that they should not be afraid to speak Aaron’s name to us, since he is never far from our thoughts anyway. We have all learned to press into our faith this year, embrace our own journey, and we have grown closer as a family than I ever knew possible.

– Anita Rubio

The following are examples of books that may be helpful for a child or teen that is grieving the death of a fatherly figure in their life. Each of these are available for purchase on Amazon. If you’re interested in checking out other reading materials related to grief from our library, give us a call at (520)-322-9155.

For Littles and Younger Middles (Ages 3.5 – 10):

The Heart and the Bottle by Oliver Jeffers (Philomel Books, Penguin, 2010)
Boats for Papa by Jessixa Bagley
Knock Knock My Father’s Dream for Me by Daniel Beaty
The Blue Roses by Linda Boyden
The Grandad Tree by Trish Cooke

For Older Middles and Teens (Ages 11-18):

Rebound by Kwame Alexander with illustrations by Dawud Anyabwile (Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2018)
Mama’s Gonna Buy You a Mockingbird by Jean Little
Be Light Like a Bird by Monika Schroeder
We Are Okay by Nina LaCour (Dutton, 2017)

If you have questions about Tu Nidito’s services or need support following a medical diagnosis or death of a loved one, please contact us. 

La historia de Pena y Amor Por una familia de Tu Nidito

La familia Rubio

Como muchas festividades y metas, el Día del Padre puede ser difícil. Para algunos, trae un día de celebración y unión; Para otros, un doloroso recuerdo de perdida y duelo. Mientras te aproximas a este fin de semana, queremos invitarte a expresar tus emociones de una manera que puede ser nueva para ti. Como familia o como individuo, dinos tu historia. Tu historia puede estar marcada por hermosura, dolor, esperanza, tristeza… Puede ser un vistazo a un momento, un sentimiento o toda una vida. Lo que sea que escribas vale la pena expresarlo. Un cuentacuentos puede ser hecho mediante la escritura, dibujo u otras formas de arte. Puedes escoger quedártelo para ti mismo o compartirlo con otros.

Como un ejemplo inspirador para comenzar nuestra narración de cuentos este Día del Padre, le preguntamos a una familia de Tu Nidito que nos contaran su historia. Por primera vez, Anita y sus tres hijos estarán pasando el Día del Padre sin su papá, Aaron. Gracias a la familia Rubio por contarnos su historia.

(Izquierda a derecha) Aaron, Carys (13), Daniel (11), Kyndra (8)
Arte por Kyndra

Mis dos hijos mas grandes, Carys y Daniel, tienen los ojos verdes como su papá. Daniel tiene los gestos de su papá al punto que algunos familiares algunas veces le llaman “Aaron”- el nombre de su papá. Eran muy amigos. Incluso nuestra mas pequeña, Kyndra Joy, puede personificar algunos de los gestos faciales de su papá como nadie mas puede. Los tres tiene un sentido del humor que absolutamente amo.

El ultimo Día del Padre, el primer regalo para su “Dada” fue una papa en la cual habían dibujado una cara chistosa y que envolvieron meticulosamente. Fue seguida por una camiseta que decía “Mis personas favoritas me llaman Papá”. No estoy muy segura cual regalo le gusto mas a Aaron. Desconocido para nosotros, esa semana del Día del Padre seria la ultima vez que todos viviríamos juntos con una apariencia de “normalidad”. El y yo tuvimos nuestras dificultades hasta que, lamentablemente, Aaron murió por suicidio solo unos meses después. No hace falta decir que, por los últimos 12 meses, he estado esperando por el mes de Junio con un nudo en el estomago. Ha habido mucha incertidumbre acerca de lo que nos espera este año-Los niños en su primer Día del Padre desde que su papá murió. Para nosotros, sin embargo, no ha habido nada mas sanador que sentarnos juntos a compartir recuerdos, aun si eso significaba reír juntos, llorar juntos o ambos. Es exactamente el porque hemos encontrado los servicios de Tu Nidito tan benéficos. Los niños y yo tenemos un lugar donde podemos hablar de Aaron y dedicar tiempo para compartir momentos especiales, hablar de como nuestras vidas en el presente están afectadas e incluso considerar las cosas que nos esperan en el futuro.

La mayoría de los niños parecen retroceder ante la idea de que hay algo que los hace demasiado diferentes de sus compañeros. Perder a un padre por suicidio no es ciertamente algo que sus compañeros de escuela o familiares se pueden relacionar directamente. Le doy crédito a esta organización por darle a mis hijos y a muchos como ellos, un lugar seguro donde se pueden identificar y hablar acerca de sus verdaderos pensamientos y emociones, lo que ha jugado un rol vital en la sanación de nuestra familia en los muchos meses que hemos estado con ellos.

Carys, 13 años

Mi Papá y yo compartíamos el amor por los pájaros. Para Navidad en el 2018 agarre un rompecabezas de un Cardinal. Era en 3-D pero las instrucciones eran vagas y no muy claras. Mi Papá estaba muy interesado en el rompecabezas y me ayudo a buscarlo en el internet. El me dijo donde iba cada pieza. Lo terminamos y lo dejamos afuera para que todos lo vieran. Estábamos muy orgullosos de el. El nombre de mi Papá era Aaron. El era un buen padre y lo amaba.

Daniel, 11 años

Una de las cosas que mas extraño es la comida de mi Papá. El hacia los mejores macarrones con queso, esos eran legendarios y ninguna otra persona que hiciera macarrones se pudiera comparar. Su súper comida era los bísquets y salsa gravy; picosos y con mucha pimienta y los bísquets eran perfectos. Y cuando hacia chilaquiles, siempre me dejaba cortar las tortillas en forma de totopos antes de freírlos.

Mi Papá era un gran papá, pero después de que murió por suicidio, muchas cosas cambiaron. Empecé a sentirme fuera de lugar porque soy el único hombre en mi casa ahora. También empecé a desear que el regresara, y trato de recordar que cosas divertidas hicimos cuando estábamos juntos. Todavía recuerdo las razones por las que el nos regañaba. También recuerdo las grandes comidas que el solía hacer. Pero lo mas importante es que el cuidaba de mi y de mi familia.

Kyndra, 8 años

Mi Papá era muy divertido! Su nombre era Aaron. A el le encantaban los perros Hound, teníamos tres. Cada noche, cuando decía buenas noches, mi Dada y yo la chocábamos mucho antes de que diera un piquete en la panza. Y el recuerdo que sigue tocando en mi cabeza es su risa disparatada, una risa muy adorable que iluminaba toda su cara!

Después que cada uno de mis hijos terminaron de compartir sus recuerdos favoritos acerca de su padre, todos nos sentamos rodeados de muchas emociones. Todavía tenemos un gran camino por delante mientras experimentamos muchos “primeros” en nuestras vidas sin el, pero estoy segura que ellos-que nosotros- estaremos bien. Como Mamá se que estoy haciendo lo mejor por estar presente para ellos cada día, estoy orgullosa de ellos por sentarse con su dolor por un largo tiempo para lograr ir a lo que sea que este del otro lado. Muchas veces me he sorprendido de cómo un dolor tan intenso puede convertirse en agradecimiento y alegría. Por supuesto, nunca olvidarán a su padre, esa pérdida siempre estará con ellos, pero del mismo modo, nunca olvidarán estos y otros recuerdos muy especiales de él. Para aquellos cercanos a nuestra familia, incluso les aseguro que no deben tener miedo de decirnos el nombre de Aaron, ya que de todos modos nunca está lejos de nuestros pensamientos. Todos hemos aprendido a presionar en nuestra fe este año, abrazar nuestro propio viaje, y nos hemos convertido en una familia más cercana de lo que nunca creí posible.

– Anita Rubio

Los siguientes recursos pueden ser de gran utilidad para sus niños y adolescentes que están pasando por el duelo de la muerte de una figura paterna en sus vidas. Si está interesado en ver otros materiales para leer relacionados con duelo, nos puede llamar al 520-322-9155.
 
 
 
 

Si tiene preguntas acerca de los servicios de Tu Nidito o necesita apoyo después del diagnostico de una enfermedad medica seria o después de una muerte de un ser querido, por favor contáctenos.

Words of Support: Part 3

Words of Support

Part 3: A Special Video Series from Tu Nidito

In this third installation of a series of videos from Tu Nidito, our Assistant Program Director, Brigid Frasquillo, offers some tips and suggestions to consider given the restrictions and limitations in place due to the pandemic. Here are the questions Brigid begins to uncover:

  • How can I connect with a loved one who is hospitalized due to a serious medical diagnosis?
  • How can I memorialize and honor a loved one who has died? 

Responding to Children in the Wake of Community Tragedy

Helping children respond to tragedy

Tips & Suggestions

June 3, 2020

When tragedy of any kind occurs in our local or national community, the impact is profound. Our innate response is to protect ourselves and the people we love. Tu Nidito Children and Family Services is here to support our community’s children and families through their grief.

Children respond to tragedy by expressing their grief in varying ways, whether it is with fear and sadness, or with questions and confusion. Parents or caregivers may find it challenging to explain tragic events to children, but we encourage caregivers to be truthful and straightforward. Age appropriate honesty between caregiver/adult and the child is an essential part of the grieving process, leading to comfort and hope.

The following are some tips and suggestions for parents and caregivers of grieving children:

  • Respond together. Children observe the way that their parents handle situations. By sharing your feelings and thoughts, you are giving your child permission to do the same. This should, of course, be done in age/developmentally appropriate ways. Sharing the truth with them will build a foundation of trust as they continue to process their grief.
  • Encourage your child to ask questions and be as open and honest as possible. Your child may be feeling confused and unsafe. He or she might feel afraid that the event will happen again or happen to someone that they know. Use your child’s own language to explain feelings and validate what they express and are experiencing.
  • Be mindful in engaging with the media. While it may be tempting to stay up-to-date with the latest developments, try to avoid watching when your children are in the room. Violent imagery, descriptions, and constant replaying and retelling of the story might upset your child, adding to their fear and confusion. Consider how you might help your child engage with the news in helpful ways without overexposing them.
  • Find other outlets for your children to express themselves. This is especially helpful if your child is too young to put what they are feeling into words. Encourage drawing, painting, or playtime to allow them to show how they feel.
  • Try to stay in a routine if possible. You should not “bury your head in the sand” and ignore what has happened, but try to stick to your normal schedule. For example, maintain bath, dinner and bedtime as well as you are able.
  • Find a special way to commemorate those who have died. Attend (or virtually watch) a memorial service, or light a candle and explain to your child what those actions mean.
  • Let your child know that they can ask you anything at any time, whether it is in a day, a week, a month, or a year. Tragedy might spark your child’s thoughts on death and they may have questions down the road.
  • Reassure your child. Sometimes, children ask questions that you might not know the answer to. Try to reassure them that you do everything you can to keep them safe.
  • If you need additional support, please call Tu Nidito at 520.322.9155. We can refer you to the appropriate resources for help dealing with traumatic events and grief.

A Friend Like You

A Friend Like You

A sing-a-long about the importance of having community

A Friend Like You

Right now, the world seems to be remembering the importance of community. Through community, we create connection and through those connections we find comfort, hope, and support. For over 25 years, Tu Nidito has been an integral part of supporting Tucson as the only agency in Southern Arizona providing support to children, families and young adults who are grieving the death of a loved one or the diagnosis of a serious medical condition. Through our mission, Tu Nidito has its own very special community.

The generosity of our Tu Nidito community helps grieving children thrive as we march towards fulfilling our vision: that no child grieves alone. From support group facilitators to members of the Board of Directors; faithful donors to Remarkable Mom honorees . . . Each of you are considered friends of Tu Nidito and we are humbled to be connected and united with you under one mission.

A dear friend of Tu Nidito is Bruce Phillips. For many years Bruce has been bringing comfort and joy to Tu Nidito through his love for music. With just one strum of his guitar, our hearts feel lighter and full of love. Bruce’s version of the song Friend Like U by Geoff Moore is a great way to express our mutual connection to Tu Nidito’s mission. We need each other and there is no way we would all make it alone!  It’s so good to know Tu Nidito has friends like each and every one of you.

Now more than ever, we see how important it is to stay connected to friends, family, and yourself as you may be navigating a unique journey through grief. If you haven’t already, visit the following posts on our blog. They’ll provide you with tools and activities to find a sense of community and connectedness in the midst of grief, even from home:
 

Un amigo como tu

Ahorita, el mundo parece estar recordando la importancia de la comunidad. Por medio de la comunidad, creamos conexiones y mediante estas conexiones encontramos confort, esperanza y apoyo. Por mas de 25 años, Tu Nidito a sido parte integral de apoyo a Tucson al ser la única agencia en el sur de Arizona que provee apoyo a niños, familias y jóvenes adultos que están pasando por duelo de la muerte de un ser querido o el diagnostico de una enfermedad seria. Por nuestra misión, Tu Nidito tiene su misma comunidad espectacular. 

La generosidad de nuestra comunidad de Tu Nidito ayuda a niños afligidos a prosperar mientras marchamos para cumplir con nuestra misión: Ningún niño sufre solo. Desde nuestros facilitadores de grupo, miembros de nuestra Mesa Directivadonadores leales hasta Madres Remarcables homenajeadas…. Cada uno de ustedes es considerado amigo de Tu Nidito y nos sentimos honrados de estar conectados y unidos con ustedes bajo una misma misión.

Un muy querido amigo de Tu Nidito es Bruce Phillips. Por muchos años Bruce ha traído alegría y confort a nosotros por su amor de música. Con solo un rasgar de su guitarra, nuestros corazones se sienten iluminados y llenos de amor. La versión de Bruce de la canción Friend Like U de Geoff Moore es una manera especial de expresar nuestra conexión mutual a la misión de Tu Nidito. Nos necesitamos los unos a los otros, no hay manera de hacer esto solos. Se siente tan bien saber que Tu Nidito tiene amigos como cada uno de ustedes. Gracias.

Ahora mas que nunca, podemos ver la importancia de mantener conexiones con amigos, familia, y tu mismo cuando estás navegando una pérdida. Si aún no lo has hecho, visita las siguientes publicaciones en nuestro blog. Te darán técnicas y actividades para encontrar un sentido de comunidad y conexión en medio del dolor, incluso desde casa:
 

Reading with Friends… ANIMAL Friends!

"Little Beaver and the Echo"

Online curriculum for children and families impacted by grief

Theme: Supportive Loved Ones

When you are grieving a loss of health due to a serious medical condition or a loss of a loved one due to a death, surrounding yourself with loved ones who truly care and validate your feelings can feel very comforting. Right now, even though we can’t see many of our loved ones in person, we can still connect with them to receive the support we need.

Our friends at TRAK (Therapeutic Ranch for Animals and Kids) remind us that loved ones come in all forms. Animals can be some of the best friends we may ever have and they are great at bringing joy to our hearts. Follow along with Vanessa from TRAK as she reads Little Beaver and the Echo written by Amy MacDonald and illustrated by Sarah Fox-Davies. Thank you to Penguin Random House, the publisher of this story. Thank you, Vanessa and the TRAK team for introducing us to your goat friends!

We are still available by phone and email. Leave us a message and we will get back to you promptly.

(520) 322-9155 | info@tunidito.org

Tema: Seres queridos

Cuando estas en duelo por la perdida de salud debido a una enfermedad seria o por la muerte de un ser amado, rodearte de seres queridos que realmente se preocupan y validan tus emociones se puede sentir muy confortante. En estos momentos, cuando no podemos ver a muchos de nuestros seres queridos, todavía podemos conectarnos con ellos para recibir el apoyo que necesitamos.

Nuestros amigos de TRAK (Rancho terapéutico para animales y niños) nos recuerdan que nuestros seres queridos vienen en todas formas. Los animales pueden ser nuestros mejores amigos y son fantásticos trayendo alegría a nuestros corazones. Sigue a Vanessa de TRAK mientras lee el libro Little Beaver and the Echo escrito por Amy MacDonald e ilustrado por Sarah Fox-Davies. Gracias a Penguin Random House, los editores de esta historia. ¡Gracias a Vanessa y TRAK por presentarnos a tus amigas cabras!

Si necesitas apoyo, estamos disponibles! Deja un mensaje y nos pondremos en contacto con usted.

 520-322-9155 | info@tunidito.org.

Words of Support: Part 1

Words of Support

Part 1: A Special Video Series from Tu Nidito

From our “Little Nest” to yours, we hope you are finding the comfort and support you need during these difficult times. In this first installation of a series of videos from Tu Nidito, our Assistant Program Director, Brigid Frasquillo shares some words of wisdom for those who are grieving during the COVID-19 pandemic:

Changing the Channel

Changing the Channel

Online curriculum for children and families impacted by grief

If you have questions or would like guidance around this curriculum, contact us! We are still available by phone and email. Leave us a message and we will get back to you promptly.

(520) 322-9155 | info@tunidito.org

Start by following along with Diana as she reads In My Heart: A Book of Feelings written by Jo Witek and illustrated by Christine Roussey. Thank you to Abrams Children’s Books for their permission to read this book!

Changing the Channel

An Activity for All Ages

We all have so many different feelings. Sometimes we can experience positive feelings and sometimes we can experience challenging feelings. When challenging feelings take over, it can be hard to enjoy our days or fall asleep at night. Remember, we are the ones in control of our feelings so we can change them when we need to.

When you watch TV, you can control what you watch by changing the channel. When we want to experience positive feelings, we can “change the channel” in our minds by thinking of things that make us feel calm, happy, safe, and loved.

Supplies Needed:

Steps:

  • Print 2 of these TV coloring sheets (or draw your own on a blank piece of paper).
  • Think about challenging feelings that you experience. If you need any help naming your feelings, look at this Feelings Chart.
  • On the first sheet, draw a scene with your challenging feelings. Drawing your challenging feelings allows you to acknowledge them and get the out of your mind and body.
  • Now, think about positive feelings that you want to experience. Again, see the Feelings Chart for help!
  • On the second sheet, draw a scene with those positive feelings. This positive scene should make you feel calm, happy, safe and loved.

When you are having a tough day or if you are having trouble falling asleep, change the channel in your mind. Close your eyes and picture the second scene that you drew of your positive feelings.

Adults and Caregivers:

All it takes is a shift, big or small, to alter our perspective about certain moments or experiences. Navigating life after a loss of health or a loved one’s death is complex enough, but when we add in the current state of things with the COVID-19 pandemic, it can feel much more complicated.

The article Change Your Perspective to Change Your Life by Steven Petrow, a contributor at The New York Times, describes how writing helps create a shift in perspective. When we write, we put our most complicated thoughts and feelings into words, creating an opportunity to better understand complex perspectives. Writing is also healing. Even if it doesn’t help us fully make sense of our thoughts and emotions, it allows us to externalize them and find a sense of peace.

We know that your days and nights are beyond busy and stressful right now, but when you find yourself with a magical spare moment, we encourage you to write about your experiences, thoughts and emotions. We hope this practice will bring you comfort or help shift your perspective.

We’d love to see how you are changing the channel!

Share your creation with us by sending a picture of your artwork to brigid@tunidito.org or posting a picture with the hashtag #TuNiditoArt! And remember, we are available for support at (520) 322-9155.

Si tiene preguntas o necesita guía o apoyo, nos puede contactar a Tu Nidito al 520-322-9155 | info@tunidito.org.

Empieza esta actividad siguiendo a Brigid mientras lee In My Heart: A Book of Feelings (Así es mi Corazón) escrito por Jo Witek e ilustrado por Christine Roussey. Gracias a Abrams Children’s Books por su permiso para leer este libro!

Cambiando el Canal

Una actividad para todas las edades

Todos tenemos diferentes emociones. A veces podemos experimentar emociones positivas y a veces podemos experimentar emociones desafiantes. Cuando emociones desafiantes nos inundan, puede ser difícil disfrutar nuestro día o poder dormir. Recuerda, nosotros somos quienes controlamos nuestras emociones y podemos cambiarlas cuando necesitemos. 

Cuando vez televisión, tu puedes controlar lo que vez cambiando el canal. Cuando queremos experimentar emociones positivas, podemos “cambiar el canal” en nuestras mentes al pensar en cosas que nos hacen sentir calmados, felices, seguros y amados.

Materiales necesarios:

Pasos:

  • Imprima dos hojas de colorear con la televisión (o dibuja dos televisiones en una hoja de papel en blanco)
  • Piensa en tus emociones desafiantes. Si necesitas ayuda nombrando tus emociones, revisa la grafica de emociones!
  • En la primera televisión, dibuja una escena con unas emociones desafiantes. Dibujar tus emociones desafiantes te permite reconocerlas y sacarlas de tu cuerpo y mente.
  • Ahora, piensa en tus emociones positivas que te gustaría experimentar. Otra vez, revisa la grafica de emociones.
  • En la segunda televisión, dibuja una escena con tus emociones positivas. Esta escena positiva te ayudara a sentirte calmado, feliz, seguro y amado.

Cuando estas teniendo un día pesado o si estas teniendo problemas para dormir, cambia el canal en tu mente al imaginar tu escena de emociones positivas.

Adultos and Cuidadores:

Todo lo que toma es un cambio, grande o pequeño para alterar nuestro perspectivo acerca de cierto momentos o experiencias. Navegar por la vida después de una pérdida de salud o la muerte de un ser querido es lo suficientemente complejo pero si agregamos el estado actual de las cosas con la pandemia, puede parecer mucho más complicado.

El articulo “Por qué escribir un diario te aporta bienestar” redactado y avalado por la psicopedagoga María José Roldán, nos explica como escribir nos ayuda a pensar con claridad, tener un bienestar emocional y nos ayuda a aliviar el estrés

¡Nos encantaría ver que es lo que haciendo para cambiar el canal!

Comparte con nosotros mandando una fotografía de tu arte a brigid@tunidito.org o ponla en Facebook usando el hashtag #TuNiditoArt! Y recuerda, estamos disponibles para apoyarte al (520) 322-9155.

We Are Always Connected

We Are Always Connected

Online curriculum for children and families impacted by grief

If you have questions or would like guidance around this curriculum, contact us! We are still available by phone and email. Leave us a message and we will get back to you promptly.

(520) 322-9155 | info@tunidito.org

Topic: We Are Always Connected

It feels really hard to not be with the people we care about right now. We can’t go to school and see our friends and classmates. If we go outside to play, we can’t play with other kids. Some of us can’t even see our own family members. When someone special has a serious medical condition, or after someone special has died, being able to be with the people we care about helps us feel better. The Invisible String helps remind us that even when we can’t be with the people we love and care about, we are always connected to them.

Start by following along with Kristin as she reads The Invisible String by Patrice Karst, Illustrated by Geoff Stevenson. Thank you to the Publishers of this book, DeVross & Company and Little, Brown & Company: Books for Young Readers!

Littles and Middles (age 3 ½ – 12):

Activity: Heart of Connections

Supplies Needed:

  • Blank piece of paper
  • Markers
  • Crayons or colored pencils

Steps:

  • Start by getting a blank piece of paper and draw a big heart on it. Think of everyone you would like to be with, but can’t: your special person, friends, family members, teachers, classmates, neighbors. . . anyone!
  • Draw a picture of each of these people or write their names inside of the heart.
  • Then, color each person using their favorite color or a color you think they would love. Watch as all of the colors connect!
  • When you are feeling sad and missing these people, look at your heart and remember that even though you can’t be with them, you are always connected to them and they are always connected to you.

Teens (ages 13-18):

When you think of the people in your life who you care about like your special person, friends, and family, your first thoughts might be about how wonderful, dependable, and loving they are. When you think of a spider web your first thoughts might be how creepy or gross it is. If thoughts of people you care about and spider webs seem so different, why would we ever compare them? Surprisingly, they have some similarities.

  1. Spider webs are incredibly strong. When we are separated from people we care about, we can find comfort in the strong bonds we have with them.
  2. Spider webs are surprisingly beautiful. The relationships you have with those in your life who you love are beautiful too.
  3. Spider webs are unique. The connections you have with caring, loving people are one of a kind and incredibly special.

During this time when we are all social distancing, we might be worried about losing connections with important people in our lives. If we think of how our connections to these people are strong, beautiful, and unique we can remind ourselves that they will last. If you feel inspired to create a visual reminder of this, try the following activity!

Activity: Spider Web Connections

Supplies Needed:

Steps:

  • Print our spider web image (or draw your own!)
  • Write the names of your special person, friends, family members, classmates, etc. throughout the web (example above). 
  • Place your web somewhere that you will always see it. Glance at it when you are missing these people to remind yourself that your connections will last because they are strong, beautiful and unique.

Adults and Caregivers:

A diagnosis of a serious medical condition or a loved one’s death greatly impacts relationships. Some connections may become stronger while others slowly fade away or abruptly come to an end. During this time when we are all social distancing, we might be worried about losing connections with additional people in our lives. This is a natural concern that many people are experiencing. This article from our friends at What’s Your Grief? normalizes this concern from the lens of a griever, while encouraging acts that may lead to reconnection with people who we miss and need. While this article was written in November 2017, well before the pandemic, we hope you still find it comforting and validating.

https://whatsyourgrief.com/old-friend/

We’d love to see your artwork!

Share your creation with us by sending a picture of your artwork to brigid@tunidito.org or posting it with the hashtag #TuNiditoArt. And remember, we are available for support at (520) 322-9155.

Si tiene preguntas o necesita guía o apoyo, nos puede contactar a Tu Nidito al 520-322-9155 | info@tunidito.org.

Tema: Siempre Estamos Conectados

Es realmente duro no estar con la gente que queremos en estos momentos. No podemos ir a la escuela y ver a nuestros amigos y compañeros de escuela. Si salimos a jugar, no podemos jugar con otros niños. Algunos de nosotros no podemos ni siquiera ver a nuestros seres queridos. Cuando alguien especial tiene una enfermedad seria o después de que alguien especial a muerto, tener la oportunidad de estar con la gente que queremos nos ayuda a sentirnos mejor. El hilo invisible nos ayuda a recordar que incluso cuando no podemos estar con la gente que queremos, siempre estaremos conectados a ellos.

Empieza esta actividad siguiendo a Kristin mientras lee “El hilo invisible” por Patrice Karst, Ilustrado por Geoff Stevenson. Gracias a los editores de este libro DeVross & Company and Little, Brown & Company: Books for Young Readers!

Pequeños y medianos (edades 3 ½ – 12):

Actividad: Corazón de conexiones

Materiales necesarios:

  • Hoja de papel en blanco
  • Marcadoeres
  • Crayolas o colores

Pasos:

  • Empiecen por tomar una hoja en blanco y dibujen un gran corazón.
  • Piensa en todas esas personas con las que te gustaría estar, pero no puedes: Tu persona especial, amigos, familia, maestros, compañeros de clase, vecinos… cualquier persona!
  • Dibuja a cada una de esas personas o escribe su nombre adentro del corazón.
  • Después, colorea a cada una de las personas con su color favorito o con el color que tu piensas es su favorito.
  • Observa como todos los colores se conectan! Cuando te sientas solo y que extrañas a estas personas, ve a tu corazón y recuerda que, aunque no puedes estar con ellos, ellos estarán siempre conectados contigo.

Adolescentes (edades 13-18):

Cuando piensas en aquellas personas a las que quieres, como tu persona especial, amigos, familia, tal vez lo primero que se te viene a la mente es lo maravillos, confiables y amorosos que son. Cuando piensas en una telaraña, tal vez lo primero que se te viene a la mente es lo espeluznante y asquerosas que son. Si pensar en la gente que quieres y telarañas son tan diferentes, porque deberíamos de compararlos? Sorprendentemente, tienen varias similitudes.

  1. Las telarañas son increíblemente fuertes. Cuando somos separados de la gente que queremos, podemos encontrar confort en los lazos fuertes que tenemos con ellos.
  2. Las telarañas son sorprendentemente bonitas. Las relaciones que tienes con las personas que quieres, también son bonitas.
  3. Las telarañas son únicas. Las conexiones que tienes con gente que es amable, amorosa, cuidadosos son increíblemente especiales.

Durante este tiempo que estamos practicando distanciamiento social, podemos estar preocupados acerca de perder conexiones con gente importante en nuestras vidas. Si nos ponemos a pensar en como nuestras conexiones con esa gente son fuertes, hermosas y únicas, podemos recordar que van a durar. Si te sientes inspirado a crear una imagen acerca de esto, haz la actividad:

 

Actividad: Telarañas de conexiones

Materiales necesarios:

Pasos:

  • Imprime nuestra telaraña, o crea tu propia imagen.
  • Escribe los nombres de tu persona especial, amigos, familia, compañeros de clase, etc. por toda la telaraña.
  • Ve esa imagen cuando extrañes a esa gente para que recuerdes que las conexiones van a durar porque son fuertes, hermosas y únicas.

Adultos y Cuidadores:

El diagnostico de una enfermedad seria o la muerte de una persona especial impacta nuestras relaciones. Algunas conexiones se pueden volver mas fuertes mientras que otras, desaparecen lentamente o terminan repentinamente. Durante este tiempo que estamos practicando distanciamiento social, tal vez nos preocupe perder conexiones con personas en nuestras vidas. Este es una preocupación normal que mucha gente esta experimentando. Este articulo de nuestros amigos de What’s Your Grief? Normalizan esta preocupación desde el lente del afligido, mientras que alientan actos que pueden ayudar a reconectar con gente que extrañamos y necesitamos. Mientras que este articulo fue escrito antes de la pandemia, en Noviembre del 2017, esperamos que encuentre el articulo reconfortante y valioso.

https://whatsyourgrief.com/old-friend/

¡Nos encantaría ver que es lo que estas dibujando!

Comparte con nosotros mandando una fotografía de tu arte a brigid@tunidito.org o usa el hashtag #TuNiditoArt. Y recuerda, estamos disponibles para apoyarte al (520) 322-9155